I wrote this to a friend and relized that maybe more people could benefit from this lesson than just her. If you need to replace the number of kids you have in the appropriate places:)
A little advice...The few months before Jake died I was so overwhelmed. I was Primary president...pta vice president...volenteering at the school every week to read to the kids...room mother...in a painting class, clogging class, and tap class (for fun for me)...not to mention I had a husband and 3 kids. I was so stressed out all the time. The week before he died I was nearing a breaking point. I felt the same way you describe in your blog...not looking forward to things and dreading what comes next. When he died I relized how not one of those things really mattered and that was it...I got out of everything I was in. I obviously had a lot of grieving to do but the lesson here is...I dont do that anymore. Dont take on more than you can do. Your kids wont remember the one thing you didnt do. They might however remember being snapped at on christmas. They will remeber you smiling and being happy when you are doing the things that you do decide is worth your time. You will be amazed at how freeing this is. There is a season for all things. Right now you have 4 kids and one on the way. Your season right now is to focus on them. If that means that you do nothing but be a mom that is ok. Make sure you take time at least once a week for your self. Walmart has $22. pedicures. I promise life will seem worth living again as long as you are only doing what is important to you...not to your bishop, your mother, your kids teacher, and whoever else you are trying to please. Learn to say NO Im sorry I dont have the time for that right now. There are enough people in the season of helping with out little kids to get the jobs done. This will change your life! Dont stress about what doesnt matter. The only things that matter are your kids and hubby. Dont let life pass you by...it goes to quick sometimes:)
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Thank you for your wordsd of wisdom, you are a truly wonderful woman, mother and friend
great advice Jewles. We still need to get together. I feel bad that so much time has passed and still have not held your cute baby! Hope all is well!
Just what I needed to hear...I wonder what the Bishop will say when I ask to be released ;)haha jk. Seriously though, that is great advice. So many things we do just don't matter, and the things that matter most somehow get ignored far more than the things that mean little. z;pbrz z9 (just so you know that say's love you, I am a dork and kept trying to type love you and kept pushing the wrong keys!!)
Thank You for this post! Lately I've felt as though I've taken on too much while Josh is away. It's not A Lot, but when I'm a "single mom" and Josh isn't here to step in while I'm away, it can become too much pretty quickly! I just dropped one of my children's dance classes yesterday, but I know it's a small step in the right direction. Thx for being an inspiration!
I love that! I agree 100%, it was put beautifully.
So true. We as moms put so much guilt to do & be everything. What a great reminder as the holidays approach to focus on what is the most important (sanity is key)...
Julie, I should introduce myself. I'm Heather, I've been friends with Stephanie and Jennifer (and therefore Mark and Curtis) since I was tiny. So when I saw your link on Jennifer's blog, I had to take a peek to see Curtis' family. I just have to thank you for posting this. It is exactly what I needed to hear today. What an example you are!
What a beautiful letter. Thank you for being such a graceful and humble example for the rest of us!
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